Being single can be lonely and sometimes overwhelming. The thought of being single forever puts our mind in overdrive and our heart calling out in desperation. Biblically we need to stop thinking about singlehood as phase or chapter. We concentrate so hard on turning the page and our future that we forget to embrace the present. When we are so focused on our future we miss the opportunity God has placed in the now to serve those right in front of us. We tune out the holy spirit telling us to keep our eyes directed on where God has us right now. Let’s shift our mindset on how we can live a bold purposeful life in whatever season God has us in.
Here are 4 ways Christians can be content in their singleness
1) Develop a continuous prayer Life
“Pray without ceasing” 1
For me prayer used to be this checkbox of things that I needed God to accomplish. Being alone in my singleness God has opened my eyes to how foundational prayer is in our lives. Prayer is our lifeline to Jesus. Not something we do when we are desperate, hurt, or lonely. Prayer should be an integral part of who we are.
It’s should be so essential that our hearts crave this deep and longing desire to connect with Jesus.
2) Continue to believe and trust God
“For we walk by faith, not by sight.”
It’s so easy to look to the left and right and see everyone around us who have relationships we desire. You scroll through social media and you are tempted to shout ‘Where is my Godly partner”. God wants us to trust him. Trust him with our hearts, trust him with our finances, and trust him with our future. A future for some looks like God ordained singlehood that we have to trust and believe is where God will manifest his greatest glory. For those called to marriage, we have to allow his will to order our path and mind. Trust that he will send us someone in his timing and not ours.
3) Serve others
“Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms.”
True serving brings joy, and it is beautiful. Serving is an active deed of love. The act of serving moves the hearts of others and offers comfort. God created each of us on purpose with a purpose. Embrace where he has you. Use the gifts he has given and developed in your heart to serve. Nothing God created in you is on accident. Allow his purpose to manifest in your lives so you can make an impact on humanity right where you are.
4) Grow Spiritually
“Then we will no longer be immature like children. We won’t be tossed and blown about by every wind of new teaching. We will not be influenced when people try to trick us with lies so clever they sound like the truth.”
Marriage is hard, messy, and requires spiritually mature adults. Those that will have to pray, stand strong, and love unconditionally through a multitude of regrets, sorrow, and forgiveness. Spiritual complacency isn’t ever intentional, but too often it can creep into our lives unnoticed — a tragic consequence of failing to be intentional in our spiritual growth. We begin to wonder how to grow spiritually because we fail to put effort into the growth. This season focuses on growth and building a stronger spiritual and biblical foundation to prepare you for your future.
Continuing to Pray
Continuing to Believe
Continuing to Serve
Continuing to Grow